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Unconditional Love: 6 Key Ingredients for a Long-Lasting Relationship

If you are trying to make your relationship work, check out someone how to build a healthy and successful relation on the basis of unconditional love.

How unconditional love works

Every relationship has its ups and downs; life brings problems, challenges, occasional arguments, and quarrels. Getting through everything together would be impossible without the key ingredient- unconditional love. It's seeing past flaws, mistakes and negative things. It is loving someone no matter what, forgiving and choosing to support, instead of criticizing and trying to change the other person.

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Unconditional love is something that comes after certain time, after falling in love, and completely knowing the person you're with.
It's about having no expectations from the other person, but rather doing the best you can for the two of you.

Learn How to Love Unconditionally and Overcome Disagreements and Differences in a Serious Relationship

If you want your relationship to last, to endure the hardships you have to bear in mind that the only way to succeed in it is by loving someone unconditionally. Unconditional love is not enough for healthy, long lasting relationship but it is its vital part. It involves good communication, calmness and stability in unpredictable situations, trust, patience and understanding. Bear in mind these simple guidelines and you'll get the answers you need on how to build a strong, successful and healthy relationship.

1. Start with Yourself

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It all starts with you. You are an equal part of the relationship you are building and you're bringing everything you are into that relationship. Know yourself and know your limits. If you have any insecurities or self-esteem problems, try as hard as you can to overcome them because they are potential threats to your relationship. You first have to love yourself in order to love anyone else. Another important thing is being independent. This may sound paradoxical but in order to be in a healthy relationship you have to know how to be alone, and how to be happy with yourself. Unconditional love means giving the person you're with freedom and expecting nothing from them, but if you're insecure you'll never be able to be at peace with yourself. Moreover, insecurities bring doubts and jealousy - things that are intolerable in serious relationships.

2. No One is Perfect

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Accepting your differences

We cannot expect from anyone to be perfect for us in every aspect of life or to agree on everything, but when it comes to sharing strong emotions and being in serious relationship it all comes to accepting the differences and embracing all that is tying us together. Stop trying to change your boyfriend and accept him for what he truly is. Accepting people as they truly are is an important step towards the unconditional love. This also means that, no matter how different you are, you appreciate and respect each other. Acknowledging and accepting the differences will really help in overcoming every problem you come across.

3. Forgive and Forget

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Say sorry when you're wrong and don't give your boyfriend hard time when he is. There's nothing worse than not wanting to admit the guilt and trying to punish someone for doing something wrong. When it comes to unconditional love, the most important thing is to work things out. If there's a problem, two adult people will sit down and consider it carefully choosing the best solution together. Fighting and arguments only make things worse. If at the particular moment you cannot work things out, give it some time and don't try to push anything. Conversation is the best problem solver. However, you have to start solving problems with yourself. Try to get the insight of the whole situation. If your boyfriend has done something that hurt you, you should calmly explain how you feel, without the noise and drama. In that way you're showing that you don't want to blame him for anything but rather make things work. You shouldn't stick to small unimportant things that may bother you. Forgive the other person for not being perfect and remember that no one is.

4. You Are a Team.

Nothing comes easy in life, and for everything that's worth you have to work hard. The same goes for relationships. Successful relationships are product of mutual work, understanding and caring. You have to work as a team, and being a team means working together to achieve goals and contributing to mutual happiness. You are two equal partners, and your relationship is something you both work on. Patience and understanding should always be present in your team, because if you function well inside the team, nothing can stand in your way.

5. Be Truly Happy for Each Other and Be Each Other's Support

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When you care about other person's happiness, you are contributing to it without expecting anything in return. Moreover, their happiness also becomes your own. Therefore, do everything you can to make your boyfriend feel happy. Even everyday small things show that you care about him. You are probably his biggest support, so celebrate everything together, be truly happy for him. On the other hand, don't forget to be support even when the time is hard. We all go through difficult moments in life and we need someone we can count on. Be that person for him. Be tolerant and understanding when he's having a bad day, or when he's sad and in bad mood for no reason.

6. Trust Him

You have to believe in yourself and believe that the other person has the best interests for you and your relationship. If everything starts with that, there won't be a single reason for doubt or the lack of trust in your relationship. Trust issues are not always related to the person you're currently in relationship with, but they can also have their roots in some past disappointments. Try as hard as you can to overcome them because, as you can see, it all starts and ends with you. Unconditional love and successful relationship require both working on yourself and working on your relationship.
Unconditional love literary means loving someone on no condition but it's far more than that in reality. Unconditional love embodies all of the concepts listed above and they are all essential and interrelated. Be the best version of yourself and bring the best you can to the relationship. Good luck!

By Abie Giles

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