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6 Cute Things to Say to Your Crush to Keep Conversation Going with Him

If you need advice on nice things to say to your crush, read up on easy conversation starters to get you going. Learn about changing up the conversation from a neutral theme to more personal one, giving you a chance to get closer to him and present yourself as a girl worthy of pursuing.

Things to say to your crush so he notices you

Would you like to avoid talking about the weather and just stammering away once you exhaust that particular conversation topic? Well, next time you may want to think about topics to talk about with your crush before you actually start the conversation. You are definitely brave to be able to start the conversation in the first place, but you need a game plan if you want to sound interesting, and not just give in to the butterflies in your stomach and fog in your head.

girl holding locker door open while talking to a guy

You need conversation topics and at least something to say about them, especially if your crush and you don't have similar interests as far as hobbies go. You can also get a helping hand if you are friendly with his friends - join their conversations and pick up the topic if you have something to add to the conversation.
Here you can read about some of the good ways to start chatting with your crush.

What to Say to Your Crush

1. Things in common

2. Keep it light

3. Personal questions

4. Compliments

5. Talk yourself up

6. Flirt

Heat the conversation up with some romantic things to say in order to make your crush gain feelings for you. This works especially well if you build up some anticipation beforehand.

guy and girl listening to music together

What to Talk about and How to Talk about It - Spending Good Time with Your Crush and Getting Him to like You with Easy Conversation Topics

Here are things to talk about with your crush from things you two have in common to less common areas like yourself. Either way this list is indispensable for talking up your crush.

1. Start things off with a neutral topic

three friends talking in coffee shop
Build on mutual interest

You go to the same classes, or, at the very least, to the same school. Was there a test recently that you and your crush both have had? You can always ask him how he did with the test (unless you think that would be a sore subject for him - you may want to avoid the grades topic if he's not that good of a student). If you share classes, you have a much easier approach. Maybe ask him about the homework assignment, or even offer to write it together, that's a great way to get you two closer together. It allows you plenty of chances to switch to topics other than neutral, school topics, and it lets you do so without having your, or his, friends interfere or make you uncomfortable diverting the topic.

2. Switch to a more fun topic

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What do you talk about with guys anyway?

Getting to sweet things to say to your crush is much easier once you get off the neutral topics and move on to something that is more about having fun and spending a good time. Is some holiday approaching? Halloween, New Year and similar holidays offer plenty of fun and interesting conversation topics - where will you go, what mask are you planning to wear, these topics will let you chat away and learn a bit about what he likes or dislikes. Don't make it a Q&A session, but you can discuss some of the events that the holiday covers. Talking about hot movies that are about to hit the theatres will give you some insight into what kind of movies he likes watching. If you do well here, you can even get yourself a date - a friendly date maybe, if your crush is kind of oblivious to subtle romance signals, but a date nonetheless.

3. Get more personal

woman showing interest in what show is shown on phone by man
Make his tastes your tastes and vice versa

Discussing a local music event can quickly turn into discussing your and his tastes in music. Talking about fun places to go on a vacation can turn into comparing locations you've already visited and where have you had most fun at. You may even discover you've visited the same places and liked the same things! This is not all about events and locations, you can steer the conversation in the direction of drinks and food - the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and guys are just juvenile men. Again, this is a good chance to set up a date - visiting a place with good food together is a very sneaky way for you to get yourself a date and give yourself more opportunities to impress him. Guilty pleasures - now that's a personal topic that is always fun to discuss and that lets you open up to him and get him to open up more. Touching on personal topics has another side benefit, asides from getting closer together - you have a reason to split away from the group and to have the conversation in a more private environment. Note that privacy doesn't mean you are in your or his personal residence when talking - you can find privacy even in the classroom, in a park, or on the street - what you want is a way to talk to him without interference from other people, people just minding their own business are not in your way, even if you are shy.

4. Compliment him

Do compliment him, don't make him feel awkward -give him compliments without making him uncomfortable.

Most guys - especially teen guys - can't resist a chance to boast about something they did. It may be something as minor as a victory in his favorite game or something as impressive as getting an award at the school's science fair - getting a compliment from a girl is an ego boost that every guy can appreciate, and he's sure to take note of you. Don't overdo it! But a compliment here and there can definitely boost your chances of getting a guy to like you back.

5. Talk about yourself

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You 101

This shouldn't be too hard on you, right? Topics to talk about with your crush include exchanging personal information, but don't make it a question and answer session. Talk about yourself - your childhood, interesting holiday vacations you had, and what do you prefer doing in your free time. The more information he has about you, more comfortable he feels and is more likely to share his personal stories with you - which is what you want in the first place, for him to open up and talk to you.

Figuring out how to start and maintain a conversation with the guy you like may look like a major hurdle to overcome, but you're not the first one to be facing that particular challenge, nor will you be the last one to do so. Just be yourself, be confident and mind your body language, and leave it up to him to decide if he likes what you show him or not - you've done your part by striking up the conversation and showing you are interested in keeping it going.

By Abie Giles

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