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Take a Different Point of View: 8 Tips on Dating an Older Man

When you are dating an older guy and you start feeling a bit insecure about it at some point, here are some tips you can follow that will get you to understand everything you need to in order to keep your peace without excluding him from your life and getting your relationship status back to the way it was.

Useful Pieces of Advice on Dating an Older Guy

Relationships, issues in relationships and dating have always been topics with a lot of tricky situations you can talk about. When it comes to dating a guy who is older and who already has the clear image of what he wants from life, there are some new dilemmas that you might encounter; new moments that might come up you didn’t count on and you now have to deal with.

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Just remember that different mindset comes with ages and that it takes time for both of you to get accustomed to one another and the way you see things. Just be patient and don’t let new situations bring you down.

Look at Your Love Life from a Different Point of View and See These 8 Tips That Can Help You with Successfully Dating an Older Man

When you are dating a guy, there are always things you have to think about- how to do your hair, will he notice your new dress, how to surprise him on some special occasion, etc. But, when that guy is a lot older than you, there is a certain level of expectation that you will have to meet in order to make the relationship work and that is not always an easy thing to do. Here are some tips for dating an older man you will surely need.

Be understanding

Most probably the first thing you need to understand when dating an older man is that there will always be a difference in what both of you expect from each other. Since he is a lot older than you, it might happen that he is expecting a lot more mature behavior from you, as you are expecting a lot more childish behavior from him. Neither of those is wrong, but be understanding of his lifestyle and try to meet him half way.

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He won’t always have the time to go out and have fun with you or hang out on a rock concert up to 5 AM, because he has to work and make money to pay for all the bills. Don’t get mad at him when something like that happens, but try to understand that, although he doesn’t give you attention you want, you are always on his mind.

Act like yourself

Another thing that you need to pay attention to is not to let yourself change who you are only because you are dating someone a lot older and more mature than you. Feel free to be yourself around him, do all the childish things you usually do, because that is what got his attention in the first place.

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It is true, he might not always be up for every suggestion you have about doing new and spontaneous things that get him out of the everyday life, but that doesn’t mean you should stop suggesting. He’ll be surprised with how much passion you can provide him with and that will keep him more alive than ever.

Support him

There will be times, as that happens in every relationship, when he will be down and blue and you won’t be able to do a thing to fix that and help him. On top of that, when you are a younger woman dating an older man, you have to accept that he will sometimes have problems you won’t be able to understand quite yet, because you’re at two different places in life.

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Middle age crisis is just one of those things. That only means that you should show your love for him in a way that will make him always feel like he can break down in front of you and you won’t leave him like that.

Don’t be afraid of the kitchen

A lot of young women and girls who date older men are so worried about how good housewives they are going to be and if their men are going to like the meal they cook. There are different life periods and in some of them you will simply get the inspiration to cook and to have fun in the kitchen. All the knowledge doesn’t come instantly. You have to make mistakes in order to learn how to cook like your mother or grandmother.

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They weren’t any better themselves. The truth is they will probably like almost anything, just because you cooked it. And if you do manage to make a mess, don’t stress about it - you can always order pizza or something else you both like and make a joke out of your cooking skills.

Inspire him

Sometimes people forget how to have fun or how to get out of their office and dull working lifestyle. When there are a lot of bills to pay and obligations to think about, having fun is the least thing on your mind. Do something nice for him and surprise him with something cute once in a while: Like a romantic dinner with candle lights or a nice warm bath for him to relax after a hard working day.

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That will make his day refreshed, no matter how many meetings he had at work. Tell him about something new you learned or some new store you saw with the things he likes. You can also talk him into showing you his favorite moments from his childhood and share with him his emotional memories.

Let time do the magic

This is one of the best tips on dating an older man, because the relationship with a guy who already knows what he want from life and has his feet firmly on the ground is a lot different than the one with a guy who is more your age. With a guy who is older you can give yourself time to grow and mature at the pace you feel comfortable with, but you also have to give him the time for everything he will need to accept.

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Mutual respect and affection is gained over the time and there will be a lot to learn from every new situation you come across with him. There is also the fact that your parents might not be happy about your relationship with an older man from the day one, but if you have the patience and wait for a while, you’ll see that they will relax and get to see that you are happy with him.

Don’t disconnect from the world

Just because you are dating an older guy, it doesn’t mean that you will have to leave all your friends behind and never see them again, start hanging out with his friends or to behave like you’re 10 years older all of a sudden. No one expects you to do that. Find the time for everything and balance your social life. Go out with your girls and do the regular shopping as you usually do, while your darling is at work.

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Don’t miss out on some parties just because he is off at some important meeting. There is nothing worse than missing out on things you like because he has obligations. You should also be careful not to live a totally separate life, and try to also meet with his clients and coworkers when he takes you to some business dinners or to be at his side when he is having an important presentation. There is no better sight for him than seeing your proud face.

Learn a thing or two from him

The good thing about being in a relationship with a guy who is older than you is that you can always learn a thing or two from him about life as well as about something else. Don’t be scared to let him teach you something, because he will be extra careful with that and he will be more than glad to be the one you come to when you want to learn something new.

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Also, when he has something to say about some of your friends or some of your reactions or decisions, hear him out. He has more experience in life and you should use that and not get angry at him for pointing out something you don’t like.

By Abie Giles

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