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12 Signs He Is a Player and Definitely Not the Keeper You Want

Finding difficulty in trusting the guy you are dating? Are you about to take a major decision regarding your relationship? Read on to know if your guy is a player or a genuine lover before you proceed any further.

You are here because you are either not happy about your relationship and do not trust your guy or you are looking for things that will tell you if a guy you are considering to get involved with, is really serious about you or not.

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How do you know if he is a player or a keeper?

It has happen to all of us. There comes a phase in our relationship where we are confused if the guy we are crushing over is a player or a keeper. You don't know for sure and you do not want to let him go without any solid proof because let's face it, you enjoy being with him.
I totally get you. So how do you find if your guy is a player? What are the signs he is a player
Falling for players is quite easy. They know how to impress girls.
So here I have made up a list for you to know for sure if he is a keeper or a player.
Also find out how someone finds a perfect boyfriend.

12 Signs He Is a Player and It May Be Time to Move on to the Keepers Path

He is a player if—

1 He wants to meet you alone all the time

It is quite romantic when your date/boyfriend wants to spend some quality time with you. But if it happens all the time, girl you are in trouble!!
Just ask him for a dinner out at a crowded restaurant or a movie and see his reaction. If he insists he would rather spend the time with you alone at his or your place, it is time to run away. He definitely is a player.

2 He is self-obsessed with himself

A player will always be absorbed in himself. He will check his phone too often in between conversations will be obsessed about his looks and will always talk about his life.
He will show little interest in yours and even when you talk about yourself, he will not listen to it with a great interest like a guy really interested in you would.
It shows he does not respect you, once he gets what he wants he will leave you.

3 He eyes at other women too often

A man who is really into you would forget about the world when he is with you. Okay once in a while he looks at other pretty women, no issues. It is in their blood. Problem starts when he checks out other women at all the wrong places.
He surely is not a keeper.

4 He forces you for more drinks than normal

He will want you to get drunk and lose your sensibilities for him to take advantage of it.
He will not care if you drive back alone after getting drunk and insist to buy drinks after drinks for you. Run away girl, he is not worth it.

7 He touches you more than necessary

Guys know that women do not like to get touched unless there is that special bond between them. They should respect it.
If he touches your arm or thigh or holds your hand too often while talking to you and pretend it is just normal, beware!!
It is a sign he is a player.

8 He talks about sex constantly

Talking about sex can be sweet and you too like it. Who doesn't? But if doing it is the only thing he talks about all the time, it gets irritating.
If he brags about himself a lot about how many girls he went out with before you, or how many did he 'nail' down before you, he is undoubtedly a player. Run away as soon as possible.

9 He says 'you are hot' more than 'you are beautiful'

Girls love being adored. A small compliment can make their day. But instead of telling you how adorable you are or how beautiful you look, if he keeps saying 'you look sexy' or 'you are hot', he might be a player.

10 He likes to show you off in front of his friends

 A real boyfriend would always to introduce you to his friends with a lot of respect. He will tell them how lucky he is to have found you.
But players rather will show you off as an object of interest to their friends. He will introduce you with pride and say things like 'isn't my girlfriend a bombshell?'
You want someone to love you and respect you, not who is obsessed with your figure.
It's time you break up!!

11 He meets you on his terms

Let's meet up for a fun weekend!! Oh no; actually I am kind of busy sweetie this weekend. I am working overtime/ I am going out camping with my guy friends...
Can we meet on Friday instead?
Does this happen to you quite a lot? Guess what he already has a date with someone this weekend. If he always gives you some alternate date time or place to meet up, he is surely cheating on you.
He may have a genuine reason but if it happens almost every time it is a sign he is a player.

12 He has a very secured social media profile

Some people like privacy and it is okay. Respect that. But if he hesitates to go online in front of you or check his notification messages when you are around, or he has locked his profile from you, there is something fishy. Think twice before you trust this guy.

These were the 12 signs he is a player or not

If your boyfriend does not have these qualities I mentioned, good for you girl!! You are lucky to have a nice considerate man for a boyfriend. You may consider settling down with him to never let him go...
But it can be heartbreaking if all these signs confirm that your boyfriend is indeed a player. But the good thing is; now you know who he is for real.
So instead of feeling sad and cheated, be brave and stand for yourself. Let him know that you are not someone who will fall prey for his emotion playing games. Tell him straight on his face the things you hate about him and get yourself out of this relationship which never had any future anyway.

By Abie Giles

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