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Dating Your Best Friend: Can the Relationship be Successful?

Dating your best friend may sound odd, but it can be the next best thing that happens to you. You may just get the relationship you always wanted, due to the fact that your partner knows you well. See which aspects you should consider.

Going from Being Friends to Being Love Partners

Best friends are always there for you. And when life pulls you down, there they are, ready with a list of numerous things you can do with your best friend in order to cheer you up and help you out. But, when it comes to thinking about your friend as potential relationship partner as well as about dating your best friend, there is always a dilemma: should you date your best friend? There is no girl who didn't ask herself the same question at one point in her life. But, the main concern about this dilemma is whether you will end up losing the person who understands you or will you make it happen?

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Dating your best friend

1. He has seen you at your worst

Since you two know each other for a long time, he has already seen how you look like on a bad day, when you're blue as well as when you're all moody and angry at the rest of the world. He knows how to deal with all of that.

2. You know each other's past

There are no secrets when it comes to knowing each other's past, because he had seen all of your boyfriends as well as you have seen all of his girlfriends throughout the time.

3. You are comfortable around him

The advantage of being in a relationship with your best friend is the fact that you know him so well that you can feel really comfortable in his presence, no matter what you do.

4. The excitement

Maybe you think that the excitement lays in hooking up with a random guy, but it's even more exciting with a guy you know for a long time, because only you two know what your flirtatious signals mean.

5. Never at a lack of words

Unlike ordinary dating with strange guys, with your best friend you always have something to talk about, and it's usually more than just a few things. Also, he already knows which topics not to bring up and what your interests are.

6. You are both in it for the long haul

Relationships can be a trick business, but it is less risky when you know the person well. That is why dating your best friend is an experience you should give a shot at least once.

Is It Possible to Start a Love Relationship with a Person Who Is Your Best Friend and Make It a Successful One as Well?

Thinking about going from your friendship to being romantically involved with that person includes a tough thinking about whether you can make it work.

1. He has seen you at your worst and he's still there

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This is the guy you know almost as good as you know yourself. He was always there, from the first time you met, played on the playground as kids, up to the present day. Whenever you were in the bad mood or angry, he was there to listen to you and help you do something about it. Watching girly movies and being your shoulder to cry on whenever a guy dumped you was something he was more than glad to do for you, because he cares about you. And you know what? He is still there and he knows how to deal with all your mood swings, all the problems you have and how to solve them in order to help you grow and improve. The best part about dating your best friend is exactly that- you have a person who knows you so well that you don't always have to explain why something, that seems so tiny, is so important to you. He is the one guy who will never question those kinds of urges, because he already understands them. On the other hand, you can say the same from your perspective. You know what he's like when he is having a bad day and you know how to react at those moments.

2. You are familiar with each other's past and no one has issues

couple on track

Another great thing about friends dating is that they already know the road that is behind each of them. He was there to help you get over almost every one of your ex-boyfriends and you were there to make his ex-girlfriend jealous, when he needed you to. You both know what the other one went through with love partners and what kinds of mistakes you were making in the process. Still, that doesn't change how you two feel about each other. You still care for each other and nothing from the past is going to change that. Also, both of you got to see the other one's reactions to some situations that are vital for the relationship, so there are no worries on how he is going to react if you go out for a drink with someone from your college or work. Unlike most of the guys, he won't feel threatened by someone else from the circle of friends, because he knows the other side of the medal.

3. You feel pretty comfortable and laid back in his presence

couple relaxing at airport

There is no better feeling than having a total freedom to be whoever you are, without having that fear that the other person might not like your quirks. If you like wearing baggy clothes, when you are in the house, he will the one who will say you look amazing in them, as long as you feel great. Also, you can tell him whatever you want and he will not abuse the information. One of the perks of dating your best friend is that you don't have to impress him by showing off your qualities, because he already knows them, sometimes even better than you do. The best part is that you can simply be yourself, feel cozy and do whatever you feel like- and you're sure he will understand it in the right way and won't judge your actions. On the other hand, you also know him as well as he knows you. So, technically, you are already on the familiar ground and you manage your way around with no problem, which is one more reason for dating your best guy friend.

4. The excitement of flirting with a friend

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Probably most of the girls tend to leave their male friends out of the picture when it comes to thinking about relationships and dating someone. They might think that flirting with the guy they have just met is exciting, because everything is mystical and new, so they can explore the options. But, the truth is, flirting with the guy you have known your whole life and you share a whole bunch of your secrets with, in front of the room full of people you know, is even more interesting. That way, each of you can send a coded non-verbal or verbal message to each other, and no one else will understand it. Imagine this: while everyone think that you two are only friends (as it was up to one point), you two can exchange flirtatious signals that only you can decode and have fun in the process. Also, seeing your best friend in a new light might just draw your attention to some things you haven't noticed before, or haven't just seen them in the same way up to that point.

5. Never at a lack of words, there is always something to talk about

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If you have in mind to date your best friend, one of the things you can totally be sure about is that you will never lack a topic to talk about on a date. Dating guys you don't know well or you just met can lead to an uncomfortable silence at the desk during the date or asking various awkward questions, which usually leads to that feeling of not wanting to go on a date after a certain time. But, when it comes to dating your male friend, you can rest assure that nothing like that will happen. Since you two know each other for a pretty long time and pretty good, he already knows which topics he shouldn't mention, like your ex-boyfriend or something that generally throws you in the bad mood. Also, when it comes to dating your best friend there is no worries about having the best time of your life, because he already knows what you're interested in- from fashion to every day gossip about some girl from school or work. You can go from picking a color for your next dress all the way to which game is the best in the aspect of graphics and he will participate in each of them.

6. You are both in it for a long haul and you know it

Elderly couple sitting outdoors

It is true that love and being in a relationship isn't just another walk in the park. It's not that easy. Every now and then you will be confronted with some problems, no matter how great your partner is. But, what is easier in comparison with other situations is the fact that you two know each other well enough to talk about various problems and ideas like two grownups. Engaging into a long term relationship with someone you know is like learning to walk after a few years of walking- you already know what to expect, how to deal with things and you know you have someone you can calmly discuss everything with. This type of a relationship is actually a lot less risky than most of other relationships, where you have to take a lot more time to see, if what he says is true. In this way, you already know the person you're in a relationship with and how he acts and reacts, so there is no reading between the lines as usual.

Dating your best friend can seem pretty odd, because that is one person that you have known your whole life. But stop for a second and think about it: why is it better to spend time on guys who are just getting to know you and expect to get the same treatment as you would get from the guy who sometimes knows you better than you know yourself?

By Abie Giles

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